How awful that someone abused her like that! Poor little gal.
Here are some tips to help re-socialize her.
- Place your kitten in a closed pet carrier with all the kitty
- Pet her from the outside and make her feel warm &
- Let her out of the carrier
- Do this for 3 days
- Day 4, have a friend spend a few minutes with you with kitty
in the carrier
- Do not pet or bother kitty
- Let kitty out a few minutes after your friend leaves.
- Repeat for 3 days.
- The association of safety & the
pet carrier should allow your kitten to become accustomed to
the presence of others without triggering an aggressive
- Day 7, open the door of the pet carrier when there are people
over. Give her the freedom to leave the carrier and socialize or
to stay inside. Let her smell around and approach or ignore
people. You want to establish a sense of safety &
A smooth re-socialization will make yours a well-adjusted kitten.
I wish you the best. Keep me posted. Simba
Helping a Spooked Cat
My cat Stu is a neutered, indoor male cat.
One day an outside cat
came to the door and stuck its paws under the door. Stu now
stares at the door and goes crazy whenever I go near him. He
hisses and screams. I was mad at first and I yelled at him and
sprayed him with water. This made things worse. I next tried the
calm approach and he was ok for 2 days. He then started again.
The cat stares at the door and hisses with his jaws fully open
every time I walk by or try to calm him down. He then comes up to
me so I can pet him....then he was ready to attack me again. He
ran behind a couch and stayed there. I had to sleep with bedroom
door closed to avoid this psycho cat. I am ready to put this cat
down because of safety reasons...but been an excellent cat for 6
years. What do you think? Kman
It certainly seems that Stu has had a rather traumatic
experience. Poor guy. There are a couple of things you can try.
One is to place him in the bathroom for a 10-15 minute time-out
whenever he misbehaves. This should get him calmer. Another is to
go your vet and discuss placing Stu on feline anti-depressants.
These have been known to help cats live happy and healthy lives
(their people too).
A cat is a friend and a companion and I would do my best to help
Stu out in this situation. He is still the cat you reared, but he
is having problems. Help him. Keep me posted. Your Pal,
Cat with Traumatic Experience
Please help! I have a beautiful 1 1/2 year old domestic female
kitty, fixed, and has her shots.
never goes outside
, and there are no
other cats in my apartment (and I live alone). Recently a friend
(who has cats but has been by many times) was looking after my
apartment one night and Pippi attacked her! Growling, hair up,
clawing at her, so bad that at one point my friend locked herself
in a bedroom with Pippi on the other side and waited till I got
home! When I got home Pippi was fine, but by the next day she was
at it again with another friend, who does not have cats. She even
bit me hand and drew blood! She is back to normal now...could it
be psychological? Pippi recently witnessed my breakup with my
boyfriend…it was pretty messy. Could she be reacting to
that with the strangers?- A Worried Mommy
Dear A Worried Mommy,
Assuming that this behavior began after the fight with your
boyfriend, I think the following.
Seeing you stressed and hearing yelling probably affected poor
Pippi. She is likely taking out her angst with all people other
than you and me so wound up that she is unable to calm down, even
when you are around. They say it is always the children that
suffer the most after a relationship breaks up, and in this case
I think you got it right in your thinking
. So what to do?
Play with Pippi and spend some time with her before you ever
leave her alone with a friend. Let her know that people you have
over are friends and help her feel comfortable around them. If
she misbehaves place her in the bathroom for a 10-15 minute time
out. Repeat as necessary. Simba
Dealing with a Mean Cat
I need your help. My husband brought home Ivy 2 years ago.
has always had a mean streak. She was very bad with a kitten we
were rescued and returned to its owners. She would attack the new
cat and us! Our vet said she was not properly socialized as a
kitten. Ivy HATES everything and everyone, except me. Sometimes
she will let me hold her and love her but other times she just
bites and howls to be left alone. I warn guests not to touch her.
My husband bought me a beautiful new kitten for Christmas. She is
so sweet I want to keep her, but I'm afraid Ivy will kill
her. Ivy will kill anything she comes in contact with, rabbits,
squirrels, birds, you name it, she kills it. And she tries to
hurt my husband all the time. I read all of your letters about
introducing cats (in Lifestyle
), but I'm not sure about Ivy. What should I do?
She is so mean...yet I love her.
I want a "normal" cat that loves people and plays. I
have spent hours crying about this. I am so torn. It is not fair
for Ivy to lose her life, but it is not fair to me, a person who
loves cats, to have a cat, one cat, who hates me and will not
tolerate any other animals. Please help. I need some advice.
Ivy’s vet does not have any opinion...she dislikes Ivy
because Ivy has hurt her a few times. I want to have cats in my
life more than anything in the world, I do not have children, I
have cats. I am worn. Tracie
How very frustrating this must be for you. You have more options
than keeping her or having her put to sleep. You can place Ivy
in a no-kill shelter
, through PurrfectPals
By placing Ivy in one of these places you can rest
comfortable knowing that she will not be put down. You can also
place ads with people that need a hunting cat to control gophers
or other animals in their yard. Lastly, you could make Ivy an
outdoor cat (not something I recommend usually) and not allow her
in. This way she does not have contact with your new kitten and
she patrols your home. She will still be part of the family but
not hurt anyone. Keep me posted. Simba