How awful that someone abused her like that! Poor little gal. Here are some tips to help re-socialize her.
Helping a Spooked Cat
My cat Stu is a neutered, indoor male cat.
It certainly seems that Stu has had a rather traumatic experience. Poor guy. There are a couple of things you can try. One is to place him in the bathroom for a 10-15 minute time-out whenever he misbehaves. This should get him calmer. Another is to go your vet and discuss placing Stu on feline anti-depressants. These have been known to help cats live happy and healthy lives (their people too).
A cat is a friend and a companion and I would do my best to help Stu out in this situation. He is still the cat you reared, but he is having problems. Help him. Keep me posted. Your Pal, Simba
Cat with Traumatic Experience
Please help! I have a beautiful 18-month-old domestic female
Dear A Worried Mommy,
Assuming that this behavior began after the fight with your boyfriend, I think the following.
Seeing you stressed and hearing yelling probably affected poor Pippi. She is likely taking out her angst with all people other than you and me so wound up that she is unable to calm down, even when you are around. They say it is always the children that suffer the most after a relationship breaks up, and in this case I think you got it right in your thinking. So what to do? Play with Pippi and spend some time with her before you ever leave her alone with a friend. Let her know that people you have over are friends and help her feel comfortable around them. If she misbehaves place her in the bathroom for a 10-15 minute time out. Repeat as necessary. Simba
Dealing with a Mean Cat
I need your help. My husband brought home Ivy 2 years ago. Ivy has always had a mean streak. She was very bad with a kitten we were rescued and returned to its owners. She would attack the new cat and us! Our vet said she was not properly socialized as a kitten. Ivy HATES everything and everyone, except me. Sometimes she will let me hold her and love her but other times she just bites and howls to be left alone. I warn guests not to touch her. My husband bought me a beautiful new kitten for Christmas. She is so sweet I want to keep her, but I am afraid Ivy will kill her. Ivy will kill anything she comes in contact with, rabbits, squirrels, birds, you name it, she kills it. And she tries to hurt my husband all the time. I read all of your letters about introducing cats (in Lifestyle Changes), but I am not sure about Ivy. What should I do? She is so mean...yet I love her.
I want a "normal" cat that loves people and plays. I have spent hours crying about this. I am so torn. It is not fair for Ivy to lose her life, but it is not fair to me, a person who loves cats, to have a cat, one cat, who hates me and will not tolerate any other animals. Please help. I need some advice. Ivy’s vet does not have any opinion...she dislikes Ivy because Ivy has hurt her a few times. I want to have cats in my life more than anything in the world, I do not have children, I have cats. I am worn. Tracie
How very frustrating this must be for you. You have more options than keeping her or having her put to sleep. You can place Ivy in a no-kill shelter, through PurrfectPals, Adopt A Pet. By placing Ivy in one of these places you can rest comfortable knowing that she will not be put down. You can also place ads with people that need a hunting cat to control gophers or other animals in their yard. Lastly, you could make Ivy an outdoor cat (not something I recommend usually) and not allow her in. This way she does not have contact with your new kitten and she patrols your home. She will still be part of the family but not hurt anyone. Lastly, Homeoanimal has some good articles on pet adoption. Check it out. Keep me posted. Simba.